I do the same. My 17 yo child will say, this is not about you, mom 😳 then I explain, I’m not trying to get sympathy for myself, I’m only attempting to tell you, that I understand how you feel and why. I never mean for it to be about me but most times, if you say, I’m sorry, I know how you feel, people say, You don’t know how I feel in this situation. Does this make me a narcissist? I’ve lived 54 years, chances are, I will most times have a real life experience that matches the one she’s having. I tell her what worked or didn’t work for me, offer advice, then leave it alone.

,the invisible campfire we carry, where sharing warstories is understood
We could say,they want all the focus and sympathy leads no where,but empathy does,and having experienced pain(like them) confirms that and sharing is giving faith back and that they not alone,but but we can do better 😂💀🫂

Her last problem, I just listened and stared at her. “What’s wrong with you? Aren’t you going to say anything? 🤷‍♀️ Well yes, maybe you should ask god for help, your higher self or something.