I don’t claim any particular capability or skill, but spiritual discernment seems much harder and rarer than intellectual agility or physical dexterity. The mind and body skills have many genuine gymnasia, but the spirit is offered endless counterfeits and diversions. The best you can do is to admit you were not of the highest spirit, and likely in opposition on many fronts. Took a lot of knocks and failures to spot this most basic of category errors.
It is all a learning process. What counts the most is what is in your heart! Love and blessings to you, Martin!