Totally agree.
I fail at this usually after I've put unrealistic expectations on myself. Jumping between someone bent on self destruction and the consequences of his/her actions is about as smart as the firehouse dog standing at the foot of a burning 3 story building being expected to catch the 200lb person about to jump out the window. (Maybe too many westerns as a child...the Lone Ranger always successfully rescued the runaway carriage.) Seriously, the influence was probably my Dad. He had a big heart, tried to fix my mom while neglecting himself, early grave. You'd think lesson learned. I am trying. 🙏