https://buymeacoffee.com/thenarcdiaries/neurobiology-why-we-struggle-to-leave
This is brilliant. I have to remind myself of the steps I have been taking over the last 2 years. Even though I know others have judged me and/or gone silent because I didn't get out soon enough (as though their timeline applies to me) or just up and leave, they don't comprehend my situation, and they don't try because they have not lived in an environment that is highly charged and unsafe thus don't understand that to just up and leave, even when done, does not end up looking like the woman can just pick up at the exit door and not look back. As long as there's our Nervous System, that is an illusion,

I can say, from a very personal level, and also from a professional level, and also from isolating in a large blue city… every word of this can apply in such a profound and paralleled way. The spiritual work involved in recognizing and mobilizing is not simple, especially when things change for the worse before we escape, but it will always be worth it not to stay in an abusive environment.

This was a pretty comprehensive piece to help identify some of the treachery that keeps us stuck. I know words don’t always help much… but these are some pretty darned powerful good words. ❤️‍🔥

I agree - her words are amazing. She has no fancy titles either - just a human who has lived it. My stumbling block is the cost of housing which I have shared on my page many times. I simply don't know how to get around that. I'm on the wait lists. I have looked for housesitting, etc. Reached out to every person I know looking for MIL units, or simply a landlord with a kind heart willing to work with me on the price. Nothing has come of it and I'm under a time crunch. It's maddening to be so alone and isolated. No wonder so many become homeless and give up. We lost our ability to care for one another. I've always cared for others and helped when I can. I am ready to have some of that now - for me and my daughter.