https://buymeacoffee.com/thenarcdiaries/believe-patterns-potential

Believe the behavior - not the potential. Or as I like to call it, believe the pattern not the potential.

As someone who was not taught boundaries but in fact the opposite, I've conditioned myself to always look to someone's potential while ignoring every single red flag moment. Not that there is anything inherently wrong with this. We only get into trouble when we continually look to the potential of someone while bypassing behavior that is hurting us, behavior that remains unchanged, with our voice silenced when we speak up about the behavior.