On Christmas Day I went to visit my 97 y/o Mom and my sister. I wasn’t invited, said she didn’t want to do anything for Christmas. I went anyway because how long does she have? I felt like a calm observer, detached and friendly. Mom and sister were in annoyance towards each other. I believe my tone calmed them at least and the visit was superficially peaceful. It’s small but satisfying to stake a claim on their hearts in spite of their resistence.