If you get "those" days Kim, think about this.....You precious lady...is one of the most uplifting and kind person on this group.......and you are definitely very important and loved by all of us here. God will always lift you up and shine His light in your heart. Big hug for you. xxxx

I had to just let it go . 🙏

21 Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?”

22 Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.

here's what works for me. The cure is in the pain. I sit in meditation. The thought stream through my mind. DO NOT engage them/hold on to them, just watch as they pass. you will feel the emotion/pain of whomever but DO NOT engage the thought. It may take a few days but eventually the mind will see you are not bothered by the thought and it will become less and less. Now it may pop up momentarily afterwards but DO NOT hold the thought and it will eventually go away. That is what I think is ment by turn the other cheek.

Never allow those that brought you pain deflect your Path by retaining that negative hold. Don't let those who ruined days in this life, have a hand or foot in your future. Meaning: Don't let those who ruined your yesterday, be the ones who alter your Path Home. Your Salvation is yours, don't let them keep you behind the prison bars of your heart.

The heart holds everything, it's our Tapestry, our Love Letter to God. Write only Divine Heavenly words spoken in His Kingdom, which is Love. Go to that place in your heart (deep breath in and exhale, find the light airy sweet spot in your heart) and keep it there above its Ecliptic Line, or the Plumb Bob used as a "measure" of what our Heart holds. Remember, it's a Letter of Love, the Song of Solomon where Light arises in prayers & pleas as a feather, nothing holding it down.

The Walls of Jericho are the walls around our heart. Cob-webs of memories & pain must be knocked down and shown the True Light...Justice is Mine God said.

The fact that you were able to master forgiveness is wonderful-forgiveness is good for your body, your relationships, and your place in the world. I don’t think it’s possible to forget (at least not on purpose), but you can decide to let it go, and not harbor ill will based on what happened. I try to do this but it takes practice especially when what was done was particularly egregious. My mother for instance has done some very egregious things to me . I forgive her because she can't help she's a Narcissist. This is the one that takes constant practice for me.

real answer is no tips for that problem.
it is not only the brain it is the heart too.
and that can heal(forget) only over time.

I pick out a personal facial memory or circumstance about that person that made me laugh/like in the first place about them. For those that are extra crabby, I pick a song that reminds me of them and sing to it. Makes me smile.

Many think "forgive and forget" comes from the Bible, but it does not. Forgive...yes. God didn't give us a good working brain to forget things.

i forgive… but forgetting is nil…. i just tey my damndest to place in a locked box deep in my brain… however… it tends to escape sometimes

It's not so much the hurt but the 'why' that is the part I can't get past.

You should never forget. Our memories are there for a reason.........

I recommend reading this book. Some great insight on forgiving yourself so you can forgive others for cause you hurt/pain.

Who said that we need to forget?

Forgiving is a gift to ourselves to not hold onto dark emotions. Forgetting will leave you susceptible to repeating trauma.

The not forgetting I gather is for your tool box so to speak:)
I let the emotions travel through me, as they do that I observe my self also to calculate how to heal from here, from wherever the emotions lands, bcs future proves past i find taking responsibility for all my own action or non actions, giving my self love and innerstanding i can learn from it. Also, i view the person objectivally. There is always something that gives me indeapth insight where i can see why they became like they are where there is love pain goes away where it almost looked like it hurt us, it makes us all grow,yeah it hurts but it hurts more not to💌

70 x 7....
Wise as serpents and innocent as doves...
Let the Holy Spirit guve you discernment as to when to extend grace and when to shake the dust from your shoes &move on....

Forgive but don't forget. Remembering is the lesson that keeps you from repeating...

Remember Your forgiveness is between you and God, so you do not harden your heart!

Jesus would forgive, but he also walked away. We can do the same.

I do not think forgetting is always wise, when we forget, we allow those same people to hurt us again!! 🤷‍♀️🙏🙌

Never forget, but release the personal hurt like a balloon. Once it's gone, it's literally not in your hands anymore. My wife prayed to God re: her difficult, hurtful relationship with her mother. Her mother has her own comprehension of relationships, primarily based on personal power, maintained by deceit, guilt and manipulation. His answer? "You're released." God has an individual relationship, with each of us, including her mother, and ultimately that is the relationship that needs the most work. As that relationship improves, so do other relationships. But if the other party serves darkness and won't turn to the light, we are counseled to continue to stay in the light.

I always said the way to have a happy life is to be easily amused and have a short memory! I try to focus on the positive things in people to outshine their faults. Also it is good to remember that the things we don't like in others are the things we don't like in ourselves, it is the reflection that hurts. When I had a NDE these demons danced before me in a terrifying way but them moment I realized they were pieces of myself, they melted away into much less terrifying forms and I moved on to the next part.

Increase distance, if possible, to let time cool the burn. Retest when it feels necessary, if it feels better, great! if not, rinse repeat!!

Best of luck with this sitch.

No problem forgiving, but I don't forget, nor do I want to. I view it more as a built-in protective mechanism..to ensure it doesn't happen again...but I don't carry it like baggage..more like a reference desk if that makes any sense? These days, my circle is very small very tight of trusted souls who have never burned me...everyone else is frosting and sprinkles UNTIL

Hi Kim,
My advice is to look for the lesson. Sometimes their is a silver cloud, but many times it is simply a lesson that you have to figure out. That helps me cope with not being able to forget.

I never forget unfortunetly. I do however look at the context of how the hurt occured. I listen to my heart and consider the person, our relationship and what the motivation was. I also ask myself hard questions like, am I being too sensitive, is this bringing up some prior event that is the root of my current pain. I also consider if I have done/said the same or similar. The more I understand why I am experiencing the situation, what I’m suppose to learn from it, the better I can deal with either cutting loose from the person or letting it go. Hope this helps. 💕