My heart breaks for what you are going through with your daughters and family. I understand the pain ... it will change. Detachment is not easy but possible,
I did not like that word, thought that detachment meant to close my heart but it is possible with Love.
Relief from the human dramas and pain comes with a higher perspective. I have come to terms with my children never understanding, with my love never being reciprocated after years of hate lockdown that I could not penetrate.
The word/concept Detachment helped even though I resisted it as I don't want to leave them, but I realised that it was up to me to shift this blockade by not giving it any energy. I raised my altitude of perception, beyond his lifetime, this freed me from the pain and gave me clearer vision, a rest, and renewed hope.
YOUR shift is felt by them.
When you free yourself, you create an opening for them to follow.
Then a different kind of work can begin.