VK said to set realistic red lines.
yes, there are red lines for me around anyone trying to lay claim to what is mine.

More importantly for me,
I refuse to be conscripted to fight [their] war.
I am a fit, ‘fighting age’ young man, and will be a draft dodger til the day I die, if it comes to it. Whatever may come, I refuse to take up arms against my brothers in sisters.