your not alone but i have to say mine has finally awakened a little more. he used to just look at me and say nothing like the look of horror but now he is making strides/ its been a hard time in our long married life . i am thankful he is opening up more.. it will happen. too much book based learning from college and hard rules to follow are the basis for his resisitance. what will people think of me. yeesh! at 78 does he think anyone cares?