point well made and good question, recently my husbands' best friend and his new girlfriend visited in FLA for 10 days...3 days in I could see that they were way left on the spectrum and said, let's just agree to not talk politics - it wasn't an hour later that his new girlfriend was calling Republicans, facsits racists mysongentist and worse, I have a bi-racial grandson and told the new girlfriend that that offended me and to knock it off - no response...a little later some of the ground crew were working around the house/pool.,I know them and offered them some cold water and cookies, her comment was - well look at you feeding your servants...! I went into my bedroom and told my husband I was going to a hotel if they did not leave. This is my husbands' best friend and he couldn't do it - I stayed in my room for the rest of the visit - I like my husbands friend - we have always gotten along and it saddens me that he is with a woman I literally will never spend time with.