It's like school, you can avoid it, go through it, adore it, explore it, dream it away, some come out transformed, some harder, some softer, some wiser, some get out untouched by everything, orientating themselves, as usual, via watching the neighbor and imitating it. It's like watching chimpanses and bonobos, Some individuals stand out, sometimes, there is none. It just happens. Rather randomly. Nature is equal to probability. Infinite universe = infinite probs.