Well, it's like the proverbial brick wall:
You can bloody your fists trying to make a dent, or you can finally acknowledge the nonsense & stop wounding yourself & wearing yourself out
It doesn't mean there isn't another way over or around it eventually, lol

I want to take everyone with me - don't I! and let's explore & figure things out together

It's like a tv or radio - you're on one channel & other people are on different channels
Doesn't mean one is "better" it just means that like the brick wall or the channel, it won't bear fruit - for the time being